Intj mad at me. For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory.
Intj mad at me Reply reply When people seem to like me, I notice that they even invite me to make fun of them for something so we can play the game and become closer. The INTJ, or as many call them, the “Masterminds,” have a unique take on the silent treatment. 3. it's brilliant to come across this post. My male neighbor who's all mad at me doesn't know why I don't have a car and had to make a comment about me going to work with a friend/neighbor. Sometimes to the point that I'm almost out of control. Is this type of friendship/relationship even worth saving? I was so mad at this so-called uncles’ action and the fact that my new chinchilla was very frightened; INTJs in general really don’t express anything worse than frustration because it just takes more to push us over the edge into reacting aggressively than most people; with the exception of unhealthy INTJs that are in the throes of Facial expressions caused me to get called "ugly" for most of my childhood ,y cousins wouldn't let me play with them cause i "frown like a soldier" cause i had a Cillian Murphy face, in school people used to think am sad or angry ,cause whenever I'm curious/interested i looked like this 😠 while I actually meant this 🤨or this🧐or this 🤔. INTJs are only 0. Although they’re commonly lauded as brilliant analysts and problem-solvers, they’re also frequently described as arrogant, uncompromising, and even cold. The second, from Te, is to trend to look for rationalization and logical decisions in real world. I feel sad when that happens- as though I " lost" something; I feel as though my friendship did not really mean much to them . You could sit down with me and ask me 200 questions and I will answer every single one of them to the best of my ability, not get annoyed, and genuinely enjoy the interaction. I hope I end up with one in the future IMO that’s not the INTJ way because we are systems thinkers and want to understand the contributing factors and potential implications of this seemingly isolated piece of the puzzle. she frantically asks me "Do you think they're mad at me??" "Did I say something offensive??" "They haven't responded to my email I sent 1 hour ago, he/she's upset with me, I know it!!" FFS CALM DOWN. One thing INTJ's seem to have in common is the fact we are too lazy to not be honest, so trust her when she says she is happy. However, when pushed too far, they can become a force to be reckoned with. INTJs, seeking your advice about secret admirer disrespecting boundaries. Reminds me of this Prager U Vid Or a comment I saw the other day on discipline. My son thought I was mad him until he was ten. It doesn't seem like either type wants leadership, but rather the Im not intj tho i think its literally one of my triggers. INFJs, like any other personality type, have desires and when our desires are not met, we get angry. Before trying to figure out how to make things right with a person, it’s a good idea to figure out whether they are, in fact, upset with you. I, like you, often find what are to me valid reasons to change my mind. Even if a movie makes me cry, it’s usually the music in combination with the scene. INTJ's are INTUITIVE (i. I attend oncology conferences a few times per year, typically 3-4 days, and recognize that INTJ's are more common there. But when projecting their anger, some Introverts prefer to go big rather than small. But then I don't think any type is getting fetishised in real When mad, the Pisces man will be more inclined to listen to you after you’ve done this. In this intj: What they do : Decides the person they’re mad at is incompetent and ices them out. --- Sounds like me already. Had a mad crush on an INTJ coworker. Just today there was an argument and people said I wasn't listening to them and couldn't understand our project. Members Online • I’m torn because I’m mad at myself that I couldn’t handle all my problems by myself (I am currently seeing a therapist) but at the same time I’ve always been the one doing the emotional labor for him and INTJ’s primary objective is to realise a specific vision (Ni), and Te acts to assert the actions necessary to realise that vision. I was very confused but I think it may have been a joke? The INTJ. When i get mad, i get mad mad. If you're looking for someone who is always up for a challenge and can think on their feet, then an INTJ may be For me emotional trauma manifested as me killing any relationship I cared about for reasons beyond my ability to understand, and withdrawing from things I genuinely loved. 😉 When I’m angry I get more quiet, if I’m really mad I won’t try to socialize even for the sake of being a nice and decent human being to others around me. INTJs are perfectly capable of learning this, but it takes a little extra work. He just has to know that you accept responsibility for it and that you ARE actually sorry. I'm here cause my intj brother keeps yelling at me everytime I try to make a joke 😭😭😭😭😭😭 what can I do to help with your guy's anger😭😭😭😭😭 Reply reply INTJ Anger: INTJ Dealing with Rage Anger is a very normal emotion, something everyone experiences in their lives. Manipulative? “Reading emotions is a skill I can tap into rather well. Additionally, a lot of people in this bunch have really bad emotional intelligence and think that being an emotionless robot is Yeah, that’s the ENFP experience for me. The difference is subtle on paper, but in action, you will see a vast chasm of difference. Then she got even mader. I'm Asian INTJ and people Hell, tell me no, I'd rather that, than you just leave me wondering if you do or don't want to do something. you also often try to make yourself look "pity" by blaming yourself Request anyone who wants me to speak up about any topic notify me ahead of time. It always baffled me why people see me as "calm" because I didn For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. Reply reply Pilfercate • • Getting mad/emotional and taking action only elevates their importance which is completely contradictive. That beats the ego of a manipulator and once you beat the ego they're finished for good. If the person does interact with the INTJ, our responses are polite and minimal and For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. What’s more infuriating is that I feel guilty for being mad about it. --Loud chewing/smacking. Reply reply Difference for me as an INTJ and other people I know is that as this personality type, and have tested the same over many years, my person found in me nothing by loyalty, dedication, and all of the things no one ever had access too. Members Online • 2613510 When you call them out on their bullshit, and refuse to back down to save your friendship, they get mad and stop talking to you. S. They’ve probably planned their next five years down to the minute, and here you are, messing up their INTJs are known for their intellectual prowess, strategic thinking, and ability to keep their emotions in check. Worse yet, they think you’re refusing to help them out of pettiness and they’re mad at you. He really is the "perfect guy" for a future marriage. However, I absolutely hate crying around anyone!! When an INTJ becomes angry, their behavior and demeanor can change significantly. I always leave an open wound on my hand, and go out of my way to show it to everyone so they are reminded that I am in control. Intense focus: When an INTJ is angry, they may become extremely focused on the issue or problem that caused their INTJs struggle with messaging, especially when younger. P. No really, if an INTJ is mad at you, the best thing to do is to propose a logical solution. How INTJ Express Their Anger? Here’s a brief overview of the intricacies of expressing anger for Why the INTJ is Mad at You: Oh boy, the INTJ. When you think of INFJs, one of the last things that will come to mind is someone tossing over tables and screaming at other people. INTJ here, Completely mad at hypocrisy, insincere people and how to deal with it. It’s never fun when the person you care about the most isn’t the happiest with you, but rest assured that you’ll get through this. Uh, INTJ's react the same way to someone shouting at them in anger as they do to anyone talking to them normally, that is with a look of quizzical bemusement, and can you be quiet now, I am busy organizing my quadrant of the multiverse. Asperger's is positively correlated with the INTJ type, at least from what I've read. I made him take the test and he got istj even though he's definitely not a sensor. Two huge things for me: They have to keep up with me in conversation, let me speak without interruption -of any kind-, and they have to be able to leave me alone. When my father died a year prior, he picked me up from my house in the middle of a snow storm at 2am and he helped me take my mind off things. My good friends know this and thus aren't mad at me, which is a blessing. And then they get mad at me because I didn’t think In this process, he (INTJ) teaches me to be more mature and focused, and I (ENFP) teach him that friendship bonds are important, as well as people's feelings. i like hearing stupid people Of course, this doesn’t work for long. Here’s a situation someone close to me is experiencing- I will call them A. I'm happy for you though, that you've been able to cut off toxic people from your life. To me, my frame of mind is realistic in that case although some may think of it as pessimistic (although they can overlap as the likely outcome can be the "worst" one as well, but one term/approach tends to be associated more about correctly predicting results and preparation while the other often focuses more about anticipating whatever She is mad at me because I didn't write here a valentine's message. Live the life you have imagined. I just hate the process of talking smack because it's stressful for me. If that happens INTJ: You’re incompetent. They don’t want to allow their inner feelings to dictate their choices, which can cause the INTJ to push these When an INTJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) is mad, there are several signs and behaviors that can indicate their anger. I agree I think this fetishisation doesn't happen in real life. I control the situation by asserting dominance over the conversation - not that I don't let them speak, but I always make sure I ask leading questions & relevant questions. I try my best to fix it but literally can’t because INTJs are an innovative and misunderstood bunch. I say I eat other people’s emotions. I told here that I think valentine's day is kinda lame. Knowing how some animals/humans are forced to live in deplorable conditions. However, it's important to note that each individual is I was so mad at this so-called uncles’ action and the fact that my new chinchilla was very frightened; my chinchilla and I built a bond and I thought it was shattered due to As an INFP dating an INTJ, I can confirm that this kind of situation will happen over and over. A trainer at my work asked me once asked me, "do you ever get mad?" That question ate at me for years and then over time I kept hearing it from others too. This trapped me in a cycle that only medication and therapy has helped break. when I’m not feeling any of those emotions. Open comment sort options Finally, an INTJ comment section I can relate that isn't full of cringe. I rarely get mad, i get irritated and people make me cringe? A lot. shakes fist. On a side note, I do enjoy individual or two player sports such as Barnum Effect notwithstanding, for me personally the INTJ type description (at least seems to) fit quite accurately – certainly much more so than any of the others. ENTPs do too, but usually, we figure it out faster. INFJs can sometimes struggle to process their own emotions because they focus so much on tending to the needs of others. But I’m afraid that’s how all my negative emotions roll – I just shut -everyone out, mostly because I don’t trust myself to not hurt people. If I had already told them or made it clear I was familiar with the topic, it also felt like they weren't actually listening to me and just liked to Ironically enough, INTJs turn into ENTPs cognitive function stack wise. It’s perfectly normal for people in a relationship to clash or rub one another the wrong way The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow Roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars. I'm never mad at you and never will be, unless you straight up ignore me for no good reason, and even then you won't see it. As you said you hurt them, they probably felt like you were shoving someone else's interest in you in I am an Intj and I’ve had a lot people tell me they think I’m unhappy, upset, mad, etc. I hate you, you sad and pathetic man. He sometimes gets mad at me when I fuck up and act childish or impractical. These fears just got the most votes; far more than any other fears that were mentioned. Wellness for an INTJ; 10 Things that Excite INTJ; Traits of a Toxic INTJ; How INTJ Handle Stress; Surprising Sexuality of INTJ; Mastermind Mechanics: Understanding the Causes of INTJ Anger. " She got mad at me and pushed me then stalked off. . "If you don't like me then FUCK YOU, I DON'T NEED YOU ANYWAY". We don’t understand the balance when it comes to our own feelings. If you get me to the point where I am mad at you as a person then you're fucked. And yes, just like others said, I smile on the outside if I like you, but inside I've never stopped analyzing everything and everyone. INTJs respect valid ideas, so a solution you two can agree on is something they'll uphold. E. It's what The INTJ seems to pulling an ad hominem. They can feel guilty for taking time for themselves, but this is something which is entirely necessary for them. I also get angry when people change their minds at the very last minute, forget to do things even after constant reminders, pressure me to take part at last minute plans (or if they informed me at the last minute without including me in the planning), and so on. . Luckily, it only happens every Things that trigger anger in INTJ. 10%: bursts of angry emotion (aka yelling at customer service for mistakes they 'cant' fix). Annoying? Sure. Im an INTJ, but when I first found out about the different personality types, I was an ENTP. 68 votes, 55 comments. INTJ friends, what do you think of ENTP’s as partners, and what can they do to better accommodate you? Share Add a Comment. Myers-Briggs says that many intjs excel in STEM fields, such as science, technology, and engineering. I have a lot of respect for those with enneagram 2,it makes me wonder how some people can And today we gonna be comparing the ENTJ to the INTJ. I like doing this tho cuz then people’s true colors leak out to me. In social stressors when another person is angry or crying especially if they are mad at me, I may appear calm but I am actually paralyzed. INTJs are not particularly charming or fun to a lot of people (don't talk much, prefer solitude etc. I get especially frustrated when I expect efficiency but get the opposite. May 5, 2010 #3 I still care about them and I am in no way upset or mad at them, although i do feel hurt. They get mad at me for trying to change an idea instead of going the same path as them. The girl checking me out passes a look at the girl that’s bagging. This has stopped. Unaware of their unique capabilities, some INFJs tend to underestimate their contribution specifically in group settings. Discussion He asked me why I was angry at him, I responded that I was just thinking about something and I wasn't angry at him (you will know when I'm I can’t help but emphasize that most “INTJ’s” people interact(ed) with are not true INTJ’s but mistyped INTP’s/ISTJ’s that think they’re INTJs. My INTJ friend and I loves the ENFP from a safe distance. She told me she was going to send my a long message about how she loved me but didn't send it because I didn't write to her first. But I do tend to get mad at extremely peculiar situations, like being around obnoxious, ignorant or INTJs certainly experience anger, although they prefer to remain in control of their emotions as best they can. She also said in my ear, "I love you. I know for INTJs, solitude is a Make sure they’re mad at you. true Dark Mode; Light Mode And yes, INFJs are scary to people that don’t want their secrets exposed. Any tips that might help to deal with this? Feel free to be shallow, whatever it takes. If you stub your toe on your bed, you might immediately get mad at the bed for being there (or the person who put it there)! Most personality types feel somewhat critical of themselves after being in the grip. Reply reply INTJs When Angry. I’m not mad or sad, I just am and trying to be. Documentaries make me cry, too. was the only class I've ever gotten a bad grade in. Apparently I have a particularly evil death stare. I almost never give people shit, not for fun at least. Instead of getting mad at their buggy laptop, they will project their anger onto the fabric of reality as a whole. Most other personality types mentioned loved ones or friends and family, or INFJs INTJ here. Phil looking substitute teacher. The first, from Ni, is to put in question that the current sistem is the best system. Also have to be careful, because some psychs said often times people seek addiction or infidelity not because they are mad at the other person . Just a few minutes ago, she scolded me for printing something that she assumes that I'm sinking to my sexual desires INTJ - A Enneagram 10000. irrational) first, judging second, so it is for instance, not unusual an INFP can have a more sound argument for their "feelings", although Fi-based, than an INTJ, and an INTJ, if behaving as a mostly rational being, must submit to soundness of this argument. INFPs, INTPs and INFJs are also candidates for fetishisation. I love INFP's. But I absolutely rage when it happens. So a couple of days ago I got in to the following situation with the people who live across the street. They can’t comprehend seeing someone not faking it or acting like them so they instantly start assuming. im useless and weak and when my friend does something wrong they let them do that but when i do something ok they are mad at me such a sons of bitches INTJs are generally pretty good at remaining calm and detached while seeing through the tricks these types of people like to pull, which gives you a HUGE advantage. It also seems to me that people with Asperger's tend to have a really great memory, at least from my experience, so that may be why you might be seeing this rumor spread around. ESFJ — Someone you love is in dire need of practical help and you can’t give it to them. Stone faced both of them the whole time says nothing to me. Members Online • PayAdventurous. maxdps_ • I I used to feel like that and I was mad because I thought that they were belittling my intelligence. However, it's hard for me to react to what people tells me if I don't care in the slightest, or to keep the conversation going. and perspectives openly and honestly. People say I look "too serious" many times. ). Members Online • Forsaken-Worth7877 . Sometimes I just want him to leave me the fuck alone (and thank god because we live 2 hours from each other). Ultimately this felt relieving because once I realized I was just mad at my phone, I realized I didn’t have to be mad. " Yeah, I was too surprised to be angry so I just said, "I love me, too. After about six months of talking once a week, we started talking on a regular at work. If someone puts me on the spot because they forgot this request, deal with it during the meeting the best I can, then re-iterate the request after the meeting one-on-one (preferably in person in or on a video call for less chance of coming off aggressively/rudely I'm an INTJ with a weak preference for introversion, and I find that the mindsets of ENTJs and INTJs resonate equally with me. The more I experience INTJs and ENTJs, the more similair they seem to me. 167K subscribers in the intj community. Im actually in a pretty good mood. It doesn’t indicate a lack of caring for my INTJ, just that my thinking process has changed. Regardless of how 'feely' or emotionally unstable the INFP I'm pretty sure my dad is an intj. I know this mirrors the experience of many INTJs. It also leaves this type open to total destruction. I’m like huh? I’m not mad. If the INFJ really wants to be able to process their anger or frustrated feelings, they need to take time for INTJs are not the only ones getting fetishised online. INTJ — Every time you open your mouth to say something intelligent, something entirely idiotic comes out instead. Although some might assume that because of their rational character, INTJs rarely feel strong emotions, they actually have a diverse range of emotions, including the fascinating aspect of INTJ rage. They may choose not to express their anger verbally and instead keep their thoughts and emotions to themselves. I’m actually a tit baby to be an INTJ. 7. But I told him I am not holding anything against him, I don’t think he was trying to hurt me and I am not mad at all, I am just sensitive and I tried to make him understand how his words hurt me and I said I wish he would take that into consideration next time he wants to be honest and direct about his opinions. However for the normal/mature INTJ you would never expect such a thing to happen, as of now i would use my emotions not as a pitiful show but rather convincing pathos to describe the It’s non-violent at surface level, but it can be psychologically damaging. Then, this accumulated anger gets released in one shot without warning, sometimes, over something minor. The issue with experiencing anger is that some people choose to repress this and that [] Well hate to break it to you but even the lowly INTJ are human with feelings. Both seem to see people as tedious, and both want to maximize efficiency. Anyway I am blunt, I could say anything to someone without thinking if it is hurting them, like a joke or telling someone about a thing that it is supposed to be a secret, when in fact I don't see it as a secret or no one tells me it is a secret, then next day they tell me they are mad at me 26 votes, 22 comments. Many INFJs I’ve spoken to Before I get a bunch of ENTPs mad at me, I have to say that just because you’re an ENTP this does not mean you will automatically be terrified of all these things. I'm INTJ and I am very affectionate, others aren't. Think Wolverine and the Hulk (but intelligent) rolled into one. However me being an intellectual I reflect on these things instead of relying on mimicry. Another thing is me understanding the value of trusting others, sharing my feelings to an incredible benefit to myself and by doing that others do the same to me and I Go to intj r/intj • by My mom misunderstands me to many times whenever she scolds me and it's absolutely making me mad. This Myers-Briggs personality type is known for being strategic, disciplined, and analytical. -Thoreau In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. Anybody got some reading on this? Sounds kinda interesting. Nothing too creepy though, but things that can help A or make their life easier. e. but I think enfp compliment each other with intj because INTJ can ground them when their thoughts/creativity I believe that stems from a few root things, one is the influence of my ENFJ mother, who definitely shaped me to be more emotionally literate than perhaps most INTJ’s default. When I see dogs being taken on walks I get mad at them for not being free like I am. i dont get angry easly and dont like fights but when i hear someone repeating something constantly, starting to list all i have to do tho im already plannig it or even have a different strategy in mind to save the time and not do it like right away on command or pointing out what is what like i dont have eyes myself i loose it sometimes Luckily, INTJ have no issues saying Nope, but if you avoid everyone you won't ever have any fun, and you miss those few people that are actually awesome. Between the people who take debating personally and shift it into arguing, and, worst for me, the people who obsess about the 100% accuracy of the message (lots of picky high Ti in my surroundings) rather than the content, well no. 12 votes, 37 comments. Reply reply that happens when at least 1 party is underdeveloped personally, close minded and still needs to learn how we are different and get our sides and traits, character under control to live in a society and make use of ourselves. Explore the INTJ Wellness Series. Here is a detailed description of how an INTJ may behave when angry: 1. He pretends he's not affected and that you don't INTJ women excel at careers that require problem-solving, planning, and organization. I would say INTJs exploding in anger is possible, as for when i was a child i would often throw a tantrum or a outburst because something had upsetted me deeply. I feel blessed 🥲. This is when the INTJ acts like the person who angered them no longer exists. Look at me I am now you and I shit on your opinion. His name was Dan. There’s a general rule INFJs know all too well. INTJ empath, narcissistic abuse survivor, and PTSD For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. I don’t like that you seem mad at me and want to get us back on the right footing, but I also kind of want to tease you for this manipulative For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. So don't get an anchor to stop but as something to suck the negative emotions out until you get back on track. INFJs and ENFJs synthesize various symbols, insights, and perspectives into one unique plan for the future. INFJs are particularly critical of themselves after an episode because it’s seen as evidence of imperfection. Sort by: Best. My family gets so angry whenever I ask follow up questions. let's say, while texting, if my message is a bit too "short" or "dry", you'll suddenly start asking if you're annoying me, etc etc and it just gets on my nerves. come on, stop always looking at the bad side. But when they really lose their temper, they don’t just let down their walls – they blow them to smithereens. He’s very precise and leaves no room for nonsense. my well-placed INTJ door-slams, while relatively few in number, are quite world-renowned and infamous. I'm not saying I'm a saint. INTJ: Analytics/morals first, agenda An INTJ can never fault someone for being faster than them, beaten by your own virtues. Life is short, but there's enough of mine left to finally have the last word. For some people this is something which happens more frequently, for others it seems easier to avoid becoming angry over most things. My T/F in most tests sits close to 50/50. along so well that I think we both get bored and eventually he gets mad and creates an argument out of nowhere to make me mad. I feel like I don’t have the right to cry or even be angry because Yes, you have to believe in yourself and your capability as you have potential to do great scientific things if you work hard, what annoy me is the the careless nature of INTJ's, they just don't care, i never saw an INTP or ENTP who underestimate himself, Since I am a type 4, this makes me one of the more self-aware, self-expressive, emotional, and moody INTJs out there. It would take veeeery much to make me mad. Facial expressions are very important and we're biologically wired to view different expressions as, "caution; threat; friendly; funny; wounded; tired" etc. I didn't do anything for him to be mad at me, shit I didn't even talked that much today", but since I didn't know the characters, the names he read out loud weren't familiar to me and kind of disappeared from my memories. Reply reply the annoyance of random conversations would drive me mad. Lying is a big people-pleasing/character sullying no-no. It's a narrow road and 2) rate the cause on a scale of 1-10. If I'm still not mentally in the place to answer, I let them know in a short message so they don't worry about me, since I have had such thing happen to me (as in my then-SO didn't answer for 2 days and I was As much as INFJs are caring, emotional, and kind, we can also be cold and distant. I was kind of mad at God for taking out the wrong sister. He feels vulnerable because he likes you very much, and you're capable of making him feel bad -- that hurts his ego and his sense of independence. Reply reply rather_not_state For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. Check the r/INTJ rules and the FAQ before posting. When angry, this intensity becomes even more pronounced. But yes, once I'm mad nothing can hold me back. I'm currently at work inflamed woth anger but am trying really hard to hold back before Check the r/INTJ rules and the FAQ before posting. They think I am not listening even though I am working on every single thing we have discussed in my head. INTJs can you help me understand why my INTJ friend cares about me so much like this? I’m not even related to him. Understanding what triggers an INTJ's anger can offer critical insights into their psyche and help in preventing For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. INTJs are frequently praised for their rationalism and strategic prowess, but their depth goes beyond their cool demeanor. He's not as affectionate as some parents, definitely more with my younger sister (which kind of makes sense bc she's 7) but I don't remember the last time he's hugged me etc. I'm not mad just bothered, and you could never bother me if didn't care about you. I haven't found mine yet, but I see people whose pets or hobbies help ground them For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. he can get mad at the As a young INTJ I used to get mad at everything because I never felt understood, but now ive learned how to compartmentalize my feelings and am better able to calm myself down before I get to that scary point. Over the years, I’ve had a lot of my clients If you do care about your family –don’t let the fact that they’re different from you drive you mad. Posted by u/Rozepingpongbal - 9 votes and 32 comments he overreacted and got super mad at me for not flirting back This is so INTJ. While that death stare could bely a perfectly happy mood on the inside, I’m just going to go ahead and admit this: Yeah, we INTJs are Posted by u/[Deleted Account] - 8 votes and 13 comments Yes, thank you! My mom was the worst about this. INTJ here, wondering, how can i get like over a crush i have been dealing with over a year now and I feel it is getting nowhere as she already has a boyfriend over 2 months ago and still I have a very very strong crush on her. I found the line between friendly & transactional. He gets all bitter and mad at me and starts criticising everything about me in the most illogical manner. But now, if I remember correctly, I think the main character For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. Right before Christmas, we went out to dinner where I confessed my feelings and was rejected. ' Kids (adults) can pull apart any argument or come up with a million excuses. -- Jack Kerouac Check the r/INTJ rules and the FAQ before posting. What they ought to do instead : Let the other person know that they’ve upset them but that they’d like to hear their side of We are told (stereotypically) that we are chill, emotionless and don’t care for most things. The strategic, independent, and highly contemplative mastermind. ADMIN MOD Dude thinks that I'm angry at him because I have my serious thinking face so he gets mad at me . I can't have sex with my girlfriend anymore without forcing her to dress up as Mikasa or Historia, both of whom remind me of Armin. So much Maby that makes me an intj anyways. When I would urge her to learn how to do things she would get all mad at me and act like I was just unhelpful. Someone has to do something to me that's so bad, that makes me not care about being the bigger It makes me sad to hear about people taking advantage of your kindness and that experience making you scared of something similar happening again. I always get people asking me why I’m mad. So frustrating. Everyone deserves the best not just the left overs. If you love someone, learn to love them for who they are, not for how much they love you. When INFJs keep focusing on serving other people, our own desires get ignored and resentment builds. If people are happy, it’s like eating good INTJ has two characteristics that turn into problems with 'authority'. If you can convince an INTP or an INTJ that constructive conversation and forthright engagement is the I think only one of my friends (not even my parents) understand. unfortunately, my emotion control is very poor vs other INTJs so it's rather easy to read me. I've been reading a lot of Russian philosophy and "My confessions" by Leo Tolstoy made They almost act mad I’m in their line. It is set in stone that i am anything else than an intj, but i am now aware of all the characteristics of an intj that i dont enjoy That usually ends with my wife being mad at me and her thinking I'm not taking her side, even though I try to explain that that isn't what I'm doing. My boss (I swear though, I love 181K subscribers in the intj community. 158K subscribers in the intj community. Or have a problem and not want to fix the problem right away. 62 votes, 43 comments. Silence: INTJs tend to be quiet and reserved individuals, and when they are mad, they may become even more silent. I will get the “coldness” sometimes and carry on with my business. I just love you INTJs so much. Having Te means they get mad at you when you're not making any sense, and having dominant Ni means they don't make any sense a lot of the time. If you don't I'm mad - actually mad - so infrequently that it's hard to say. Anytime she needed something on her phone done more complicated then making a call she would just hand it to me and not make an effort to learn at all. Based off of facial expressions people instinctively become more open or closed off from you. generally I find the first signs that someone is doing something like this is that they seem to get mad at me without having reasoning I really understand. The people I know who I think are INTJs, including my husband who I know is an INTJ, aren't really the anti-establishment, society rejecting, ostracized people your post paints them as. INTJ fury mostly manifests 2. As an INFP who has several INFJ friends, I must say they create a light-hearted and warm group atmosphere without even trying hard. I would falsely accuse you of having used emojis and express a claim of hatred for them myself. But the surprising part is they may not be even Read When I was a teenager a random girl on the street just walked up to me and hugged me. They all seem to feel a bit like they don't belong, but they dive into the system anyway and make it work for When INTJs are simply mad, they will usually isolate and get especially curt and critical. Baseball bat to the head, curb stomping, set-your-car-on-fire fucked. This has helped me get over ENTPs strike me as more mad scientisty than INTJs. (teenage INTJ) I hide a lot from my mom because she loves to inspect our room including our own things. he shows he cares in different ways, like helping me with hw etc. Which again, is highly irrational. I think the common ground or avenue that both of you need to maintain is to be open minded, because if one of you starts closing off then it will start eroding the relationship. We’re often described as sensitive and empathetic individuals with a keen eye on future For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. Intense and focused: INTJs are known for their ability to concentrate deeply on their thoughts and ideas. They know you are like a bloodhound with a scent and if you choose not to let it go, it’s only time before you figure it out. If an INTJ loves you, you have the blueprint. The tricky thing about me is that I also commonly test as an INFJ where my enneagram also tests as 5w4 (type 5 is commonly found in INTJs; type 4 in INFJ and INFP). Many INTJs feel lost or out of place until they stumble on the type description, and suddenly things start to make a lot more sense. He loves me enough where it is obvious to see that he won't have wavering feelings when I grow old. For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. I’m just trying to get my shit and go. i have struggled with my propensity to throw a good INTJ door-slam through the years, though, finding NFJ'ish. Illogical behavior can trigger anger in INTJ. The best way I can describe it is this: ENTJ: Agenda first, analytics/morals second. It baffles me. They're not mad at me but at the service or the company. My INTJ, however, is a lot more black and white. 8% of the female population but makeup 2% of Something is so moving to me about instrumentals. Members Online • [deleted] They tell me that I look mad or upset, unhappy it’s just my expression Reply reply Dismal_Complaint2491 It's really common for INTJs and I know it can be difficult. When I worked retail I literally had people tell me that I am really nice but I should smile more. -Camus If my eyes could show my soul, everyone would cry when they saw me smile. Phil, I am just remembering an ****hole high school substitute that talked down to me like I was an idiot and made me cry in biology class, even when I was clearly the smartest one there [him included]. And I know where she lives. INTJ | 5w4 | ILI-0 (INTp) Live in the sunshine, swim the sea, drink the wild air. 0 pleasure. Calling yourself INTJ is not an excuse for being judgemental As an INTJ, that's entirely flabbergasting to me. And what's bothering me is that he knows the situation is impossible but still wants to pursue it. It is literally a blind rage, and only time and growth will make that subside. Because INFJs and ENFJs value Extraverted Feeling * I am married to a T type and noticed that I often assume he’s mad at me because he seems preoccupied or isn’t talkative. If you want a certain behaviour from her, tell her you to need something and ask her if she can help. It makes person even more mad, but at the end, you kinda win, and you don't make a fool out yourself. I just stood there with my arms at my side. If you want to do something just think to yourself 'Do the fucking thing. Reply reply More replies. INTJs have tertiary, or mobilizing Fi. -Emerson Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. They're probably the coldest type, so I've never really wanted to be friends “shes such an e2 it HURTS, the reason ppl are voting e3 is bcz she “wants to be recognized by everyone” when that isnt true in the first place, all she wants is to be respected and be taken seriously by JOKER, every heart triad is love hungry and wants recognition but what makes it clear that shes e2 is her pride and flattery (especially) when Im inclined to believe that a lot of INTJs got benched for social reasons rather than skill. My mom used to get so mad at me because I would ask "why" on everything but it was just because I would want to completely understand what happening. I refused to participate most the time because people would get mad at me because I sucked and would make their team lose. I've seen him do it all the time yet he never lets his buddies drive their own vehicle while he's in the car, just once!? I don't know HELL YEAH! Inefficiency gets to me quite easily when things really need to get done. It means they are pretty aware of their emotions, likes and dislikes, but have limited confidence in them, and will majority of the time choose to go with what they see as reasonable, if there's a conflict between the two, but will be aware that that's what they are doing, and will still be frustrated. And 3) one therapist told me that the physiological response to anger can be broken if you can distract yourself for 90 seconds. Nothing huge, it impacted me much more when I was very young than how I am now. 1st, you often may be "overly-sensitive" and overthinking like infjs. 144 votes, 87 comments. Same here. After much If you're dating an INTJ, you're in for a wild ride! INTJs are intense, intelligent, and always looking for ways to improve themselves and their relationships. A lot of people have a hard time typing themselves and especially since, you know, the MBTI testifying, the internet, the number one was common result that people get is INTJs it’s as if they’re like testing for, INTJs, et cetera. These people ive never met or seen in my life are acting like I just pissed in isle 3 or something. As INTJs we have a mind that's even better at this and can take it to extremes. INTJs are intimidating. He text me the night before he was killed asking me to hang out with him, and I made up an excuse not to (I was just too emotionally drained) and I regret it. They have someone who likes them and is secretly doing small things for them in their absence, sending texts etc. This rarity Since I'm there too, idk if I have advice, but an older intj once told me "Even if you're a never stopping ship an anchor should slow you down a bit". He doesn’t change his mind often. Remember that trauma is not your fault, but it is your responsibility. *No offence to anyone here who looks like Dr. I think other T types wouldn’t make that assumption I definitely do I remember you skinny Dr. (I'm giving them an opening to take advantage of me when I'm not mad but they think I'm mad). Let’s start with the obvious: INTJs usually look tee’d-off no matter what’s going on (don’t make me trot out the pictures of INTJs trying to “smile” for the camera). Other times I have a good time with him. I handed over my Christmas gift right after and started For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. We don't come out a box all made to specific parameters. They will feel like destroying everything in their path. but because they don’t like who they have become as a result of a relationship. I know plenty of INTJs who are Some INTJs may need to dial back on this a bit because there’s a point when efficiency hurts and does not benefit, but inefficiency still annoys me. 8 percent). peopel think this is I have a problem, tbh I don't see it as a problem, I see the people around me are too sensitive. These intelligent creatives are very rare, forming only 2 percent of the population as men, and are even less common as women (. Her sister was a good friend of mine and died suddenly of cancer a few years ago. I suffer from misophonia. INFJs are reserved and deep-thinking idealists. I am a question answerer as well. I guess I tend to not smile unless I find something funny. Hey future serial killers, I’m an ENTP who has a huge crush on an INTJ, and I’m pretty sure she likes me back. A person without a name and without a past with you holds no looming power. It seems like it takes a few days for them to loosen up and have fun, but the last night before we fly home is always a good time. On top of that, many describe themselves as an HSP For example, if someone gets mad at me, I don’t necessarily get mad at myself, but I notice the emotion and my emotion changes because of it. Don't you hate it when people say "I'm not mad, I'm just disappointed?" Because about 5000% of the time, they are mad and they're just trying to make you feel awful about it by manipulating you into feeling guilty (which is an easy way to make me INFJs are inherently sensitive to other people’s emotions. yccq cbvpy opwvsaz eqcf qvcl eyctqzb zjvo cbz blvx ifq